Let’s play a game. You list all the tznius rules from high school or tznius kabbalos you were encouraged to take on, and we see how they compare.
Try not to mix up school dress code (eg: must wear school sweatshirt) with tznius rules (eg: must not wear a visible t-shirt under uniform shirt).
I’ll start you off with some examples I’ve been sent:
- If your hair was longer than your shoulders you were told to wear it up.
- I was chastised once by my Hebrew teacher for having nails that were too long.
- I was warned that floor-sweeping denim skirts are not tznius because they are fashionable among the goyim.
- I had the audacity to wear a black [shell] under my school blouse… when the tznius police caught up with me she told me that my black undershirt was sticking up past my top button, and I had to pull it down so nobody should see that I’m wearing a black undershirt.
- Not wearing shirts with words on them.
- Not walking out of your bedroom untznius
- Not wearing denim
- Always wearing tights instead of socks
- Not talking loudly in the street
- Not wearing long earrings
- Not wearing short sleeves with a long-sleeve shirt underneath
- Not wearing red
- Letting the boy walk through the door ahead of you on a date so he doesn’t have the nisayon of looking at your tush!
- Not eating in the street (I know it’s in the Gemara but the teacher connected it to tznius)
- I had a teacher say that we should never wear high heels even under long skirts because men could find the sound of walking heels arousing. She over heard two Mmuslim women talking about how they don’t ever wear heels for that reason and she was saddened that those women had more “sensitivities” than her students do/did.
From Esther Fried:
- Keeping shirts tucked in
- Not wearing makeup until senior year shabbaton (at which point about five pounds of makeup per face was considered appropriate)
- I had to explain “sensitivities” to my first grader who came home and told me that her Morah said wearing mismatched sock is not tznius.